can u give me some advice 911

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Registered: 04-17-2003
can u give me some advice 911
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:52pm
have a boyfriend... a great boyfriend who i love very much and would do anything for. He spoils me to no end. we have been having great sex for alost 6 months now and i am willing to do anything but evertime he asks me to get on top i can't. i freeze. it's really becoming an issue b/c i can't do it unless i am in his car. i know crazy. I really need to get over this. i dunno why i get incredibly insecure and scared( i feel like there''s no way i am going to do it right). It's crazy b/c i am a very sexy and cofident woman. i have no problems other than this and it's begining tomake things a little difficult, for me in terms of esteem. we were doing it on tues and once he asked me to get on top i just couldn't it really killed the moment for botrh of us, to the point where neither of us could perform. i dunno wat to do to get over this. pls help.

Leidy101@yahoo.com, NYJLeidy101@aol.com or post here... just give me advice pls.
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Registered: 04-03-2004
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 8:42pm
What is it about being on top that bothers you? You say you're confident and sexy, so think it when you're on top!! Think of yourself as the hottest most confident woman ever and just "do it"!! I wasn't a big fan of that position either, but based on the response of whom you're with, it's a huge turn on for both of you. When you're having sex, don't think of the getting on top: just let things happen and try it yourself. Don't wait until he asks, just go for it and you'll feel different. Good luck!!