Can Working in a Male-Dominated Profession Impact Your Desire For Your Husband

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Registered: 09-29-2011
Can Working in a Male-Dominated Profession Impact Your Desire For Your Husband
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Thu, 09-29-2011 - 4:57pm

I have lost all desire and passion for my husband.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Could working in a male-dominated profession impace my desire for my husband?

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I"m a lawyer, so definitely a male dominated profession--although it's getting to be more 50-50.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009

If you had a good marriage, then nothing could change that unless you've got eyes for another man.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2011

Most professions are male dominated, unless you're a stripper or prostitute. Unless your husband is a pig I don't understand how that would affect your relationship. For some reason you have lost the spark in your relationship and you don't understand why, so you are looking at your professional as a possible cause. Sometimes relationships lose the spark when couples start to take each other for granted and don't romance each other. Sometimes we allow work to dominate our lives and don't make time for each other. There could be a number of reasons why your feelings have changed and maybe at this time you should consider going into therapy to try to get some answers. This site is good to vent and get feedback

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Registered: 05-18-2009

I am a systems administrator... I know what it's like to work in a heavily male-dominated industry myself. But, personally, I relate better to men than I do to women. My colleagues and I use uhh, "strong language" and like action movies but we don't harrass other women in the industry or treat women poorly at all. Do you feel that your colleagues treat you badly? Is there another job where you could apply your skills but feel more comfortable in your work environment?

I'm sure that your revulsion to men in general has impacted your feelings toward your husband, who is a member of their species but doesn't have to have the same traits as all of them. When you think about it logically, would you want to be punished because some women are gold-digging sluts? I know you're not lumping your husband in with the "bad guys" on purpose... If things have gotten this bad though, it's time to see a counselor about how to cope with this revulsion, and thinking about another job. It sounds drastic but if it's taking this big a toll on your marriage, is the job really worth it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

"Most professions are male dominated, unless you're a stripper or prostitute"

Or a teacher, writer, musician, artist, designer, administrator, historian....

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Registered: 04-16-2008