Can't decode his behavior - is he losing interest? Or being really busy?
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|Tue, 03-25-2014 - 6:15am|
Here's the story - sorry it's a bit long:
I met this guy at a common friend's birthday party about 3 months ago. There was great chemistry and common interests (darts, movies) between us so I've decided to go with the flow and enjoyed the time with him (frequent texting and hanging out several times a week). Sex was involved since the 3rd week but it didn't ruin things. We still hanged out for darts and movies and things got even better. By the way, I'm 27 and he's 29.
We never made things official but common friends / our friends more or less knew about us, and I happened to meet his best friends since he asked me to join their gatherings (happy hour, darts) for a few times. However, the good times only lasted till last month.
There were various reasons - we were busy for work so we texted less, and there were many gatherings with own friends this month (friends coming in town, banquets, birthdays). We could only meet once a week (Sunday) or even less now - sometimes it wasn't even a proper date... like 2 weeks prior: his schedule was full all weekend so I've made plans on Fri and Sat nights for myself. He suddenly called on Friday 3/14 11pm (after his gathering with friends) saying he missed me and wanted to come over in the midway of my gathering with our common friends. So it was a "drinking with common friends and sleepover Friday night". We didn't meet again till now.
We texted less and we started to run out of topics - we only texted every 2 or 3 days during the week and ask what each others are up to and trying to make plans for the next meeting.
I'm feeling more and more distanced from him during this month. My exes were clingy guys which demanded daily communication and meeting at least 2 days a week. I couldn't figure if this guy's losing interest on me or really being busy. He replies to all my texts and tells me what he's up to on the weekends even if he's got plans and not being able to meet up. This is nothing official yet and I didn't want to make things awkward by confronting him about where we stand.
We've cancelled the past Sunday's movie date again since he caught serious cold since Saturday and had to stay home to take a rest. I texted him daily to see if he was getting better. He's almost recovered now, but we haven't been talking about when and where we're going this week yet.
It was usually me to ask what he's up to on the weekend and to suggest what to do when we meet (our dates usually takes up half of the day). I suddenly don't feel like to initiate anything with all these coldness accumulated during the month. Am I not being understanding/ caring enough or did I totally get it wrong, that he was distancing himself from me?
I would really want some advice since I've never been in such a situation before. Thanks...