Can't find the slot!
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|Mon, 06-02-2003 - 8:52am|
At first this was fine. Felt like a fantasy, almost like how those in an affair would act. In public we would behave as tho apart, in private we be 'us' again. However there is becomming less and less time for 'us'.
Last night, at around 2am we talked. There was no other suitable time. We have two kids so can't talk about this stuff when they're there.
I explained that I still agree we should take things slowly but felt frustrated by the apparent lack of time for 'us'. How can we build if we don't get time? My wife got annoyed and said she felt like I was pressuring her to make big changes despite our agreement.
How can I convey to her that I am simply asking for us to try and make more time within our routines. She said we should stick to our routines developed when we where separated and try to slot us into that where possible. Problem is when we were separated, there were no slots.
I am so scared of loosing her again. She feels like we're moving too fast because I stayed over a few nights recently. I accept that, however she gave me no indication that this was a problem.
Any advice would be welcome. I know we need to take things slowly, but I don't see how we can develop again unless there is time and freedom to do so.
Thanks for listening.