Can't get over old boyfriend
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Can't get over old boyfriend
| Tue, 09-14-2004 - 10:39pm |
To make a very long story short - I desperately need to get over feelings for my old boyfriend. Old as in he was my boyfriend and lover 30 years ago. It wouldn't be so bad if I didn't know he still has feelings for me. I am married and so is he. My marriage isn't so happy; my husband, bless his heart,is a very negative person whom I love more as a friend than a husband. I have not been sexually attracted to him for about 15 years and I'm not sure he is attracted to me. I believe it's just the release he is interested in. I think my ex's marriage is somewhat happy, but he and I cannot be around each other for any length of time without emotional sparks flying. We both live in a small town so we do run into one another quite often. This is driving me crazy. I can't help how I feel, Lord knows I've tried, and I'm tired of feeling guilty. I can give more details if anyone is interested.

Most people who are in 'non-fulling relationships' often want to RECAPTURE THE PAST! Problem is...THEY CAN'T! Special individuals (like the one you described) can enter our lives briefly...and then move in other directions.
While Pianoguy is assuming that your EX was probably the first TRUE LOVE of your life, HE'S MARRIED! What's the point of screwing up a happy marriage between 2 people just because YOURS ISN'T? If you honestly CARE about HIS HAPPINESS...stop reflecting on what the 2 of you had at together....and get some professional counselling!
You don't have to stay with your present husband if he doesn't 'satisfy you'...but if the only thing that's lacking in your life is S-E-X...I'll bet there are one or two...err...'gentlemen' in your town who will be more than happy to fill the void?
Pianoguy
Getting over someone means you have grieved for the end of that relationship, for what could have been, for what might have been, for what you hoped would have been.
Carrie