Cant take any more

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Registered: 07-18-2011
Cant take any more
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 5:01am

Foir the last 12 months life has been mostly downs.... June 2010 I had a misscarriage and 4 weeks later in July my grandmother whom I was very close to suffered a massive stroke and passed away 5 weeks later also at the same time my partner was informed his job was not safe.

I tried to lean on my partner for support but he has pushed me away for the last 12 months . With the pregnancy this was not planned and he wasnt very immpressed but I wanted the baby and was deverstated at the misscarriage where as I think it was a relief to him he never talks about it or mentions it.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 11:11am

I would say it's really up to you as to where you want this relationship to go.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 11:30am

I agree with music.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 12:25am

If you "can't take any more".........then it's time to end the relationship.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 1:23am
Listen to yourself. You said:
1. Last 12 months your partner pushed you away when you needed him for your miscarriage (his baby I assume?) and your grandmother's death.
2. Your partner's negative, disparaging comments

So what advice would you give anyone in the same situation?

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 10:21am

The true test of a relationship isn't when life is wonderful.... You learn the most important things about your relationship when life is difficult.

In difficult times, when you needed him most, your partner pushed you away.

That is not a good partner. You may love him, but it doesn't make him a good companion. Unfortunately, life has a way of getting harder instead of easier. You really need someone you can trust to support you when you need it.