Can't Take It Anymore
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Can't Take It Anymore
| Wed, 05-30-2007 - 9:13am |
I am a 22yr old African American woman, but I have a huge problem. My boyfriend has a 31 yr old female friend. First I was ok with it, but then when I told him that I didn't want her to be around because it's not like I'm there when they hang out. He told me baby there's nothing going on with me and her she's just a friend.(Yeah right) He's only know this woman for a month and I think that they've had sex. He won't come out and tell me, but deep down I know. Then on Monday I'm sitting at his moms house talking to her and just chilling. And guess who shows up?? Yeah him and this woman so she gets out and comes in all smiles like I was just going to be ok with it. It's bad enough that I have to deal with her seeing my boyfriend not I have to see her. I don't like her cause I know what shes trying to do. And he's weak-minded enough to go for it, but my friends and family say that I should let him go. I'm trying to, but I care about him I don't call or pick up for him. I'm mad ass hell. Let me know what should I do??

Hi lashay24,
Trust your gut feeling and I hate to tell you but your friends are giving you good advice about letting go.
It's disrespectful to you for him to be dating another woman. Even though you care for him, he's not treating you well. This will not only make you feel angry with him, but sooner or later lose respect for yourself as well. Let him know that you need to be respected, and that he can't have both of you. If he's willing to give her up, (and if you can trust and believe him if he says he will), then that's good. If not, even though you care for him, it's best to let him go. We can like and love things (and people) that are bad for us and cause harm. It takes more than feelings to make a relationship work. It takes consideration and respect.
Best wishes,
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