'Casually' mentioning his exes

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Registered: 08-02-2004
'Casually' mentioning his exes
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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 8:39am

I've been in a relationships for 3 months.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 12:28pm

Holy cow shedevil788, with all this clarification and more examples, I wonder why you downplayed it in your first post?

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Registered: 06-12-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 3:51pm
That would bother me too. I mean, it's one thing to talk about past relationships; I think it's good to be able to do so with your partner. But this is just ridiculous! He is way out of line to compare like that. You are well within your right to ask him to stop.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 4:04pm
Welcome to the board babylon_poet and thanks for participating.




angels

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Registered: 08-02-2004
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 3:47am

Thing is, about the ex (there are more that he mentions, there's one that's still actively running after him), I can't forbid him to have any contact with them anymore?

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 5:01am
Why are you asking us if it is alright to ask him to make a decision?
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Registered: 08-02-2004
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 6:52am

Correct me if I'm wrong but I think most people that post a thread on these boards, do so because they want other people's view/advice/opinion on how to handle something that's bothering them.


If it bothers you that I ask the question, then don't answer it.


I am contemplating my options, I just wanted othere people's view on the situation.

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 9:17am
You are entirely right, please do not let me sway you from your course of action.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 11:51am

Other women can show up naked to his door and try to seduce him. It doesn't matter what these girls do or say or how low their self esteem is. Your problem is that your boyfriend doesn't ignore them. He doesn't treat them like exes (no contact) when he knows that he is leading them on by talking to them.


You need to make the right choice for you knowing that you boyfriend won't change. If you want to stay with this 'one hell of a guy' then you have to accept the other women in his life.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 12:52pm

For me, it would not be about giving an ultimatum, it would be about openingly and honestly telling him what you need and want in a relationship.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Fri, 07-25-2008 - 6:09pm

I prefer to live life with the least amount of baggage possible and that would mean that I would treat an ex like what he is...an ex.