Caught between him and my mom

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Registered: 06-30-2004
Caught between him and my mom
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 11:16am
My mother and I have always been quite close. In fact, I see it as a real blessing that she takes care of my 1 year old daughter for me. My husband, on the other hand, does not see her in the same light. She tries to be helpful by buying things to decorate the apratment or general household items (paper towels n bulk, etc.). I, againg, find this nice because with a 10 hr. work day, I don't have time to get out shopping as I'd like to.

My husband says he's biding his time as far as my mother is concerned. He knows that our daughter will evenetually be in school, and he can't wait to see that day. That, to him, means that my mother won't be around nearly as much and will stop buying things.

I feel caught because I apprcieate the things she does, but he finds them to be cluttering up the apratment. Is it my place to tell my mother to stop buying stuff? Is it his place? How should she be approached? She is very sensitive about the stuff she buys and has seemed offened in the past if it isn't recieved as well as she'd hoped.

Any advice is appreicated!

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 2:00pm
That's a tough one. Your mom is being nice and the message your husband gets is that he's not providing well for his family.


Carrie

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Registered: 06-30-2004
Fri, 07-02-2004 - 8:49pm
That is so true. He does feel that underlyingly I'm sure.

Thanks for your response.

Jaime