Cheated out of the beginning
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Cheated out of the beginning
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:32pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. We are in college and 20 and 19, respectively. We have a great relationship, and one that progressed very quickly. Although we've been together a year, our relationship is more like at the 2-3 year level (we're very close w/each others families, have traveled for extended periods to foreign countries, discussed marriage and our future together seriously, etc.) The problem is, the way our relationship started was fairly unconventional. We met at a dining hall and went out that night dancing at the frat parties (neither one of us drinks or smokes; we were completely sober). We had a great time and I ended up going back to his place, where we hooked up. We didn't have sex, but we did have oral sex. I'm not normally like that, but we spent the whole night talking and I immediately felt a connection. The problem is that right after that, partly because we're on a college campus and partly because we were completely enamoured with each other, we started seeing each other everyday, all day. As he put it, there was no 'chase' and no 'waiting until I could finally kiss the girl of my dreams'. We both feel a little cheated, like we missed out on that early, giddy-because-you-don't-know-what's-going-to-happen feeling. Does anyone have any practical ideas on how we could remedy this? I've been feeling a little down about it lately, and I think in retrospect we both sort of regret that it happened that way. Any suggestions?
