Cheating?

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Registered: 10-01-2004
Cheating?
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 7:36pm
My husband is deployed for 12 months and the past 6 months I have tried to be really strong. We have been married for a year, and I love him with all my heart, but now I am in a different state and hang out with one of my best guy friends that has feelings for me and I have always had feelings for him. I guess the big question is, Is kissing him a bad thing? I mean is it cheating?? Im just so lonely right now. please help. I dont want to mess anything up, I just need to be comforted
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Registered: 08-26-2004
In reply to: surfergirl85
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 7:47pm
To most people -- kissing is considered cheating.. but even if you and your husband agree that you can "kiss others" I still wouldn't do it.

Once you start kissing it could eventually lead to sex. And even if you haven't kissed your friend yet, you are attracted to him, he is attracted to you - you are playing with fire. I would recommend if you want to stay faithful that you do NOT hang out with his man alone anymore.

If you want to cheat, then continue to hang out with him, kiss him and eventually you will end up in bed together.

It is understandable that you are lonely but you married a man who was in the military - you knew the war in iraq was going on and you knew that him being deployed might happen. Women need to realize what being a military wife is -- it is about commitment and loyalty and you sound too young to have made that commitment.

You should find a hobby, reach other to your real friends( not men trying to get into your pants), find something to occupy your time.