cheating

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2004
cheating
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 1:37am
In the past (last year and a half) I've caught him on several dating websites with a profile active. He finally got tired of getting caught so he rarely touches the computer now. Then, very recently, I found 800#s he's called on his cell phone. Red Hot Date and Live Links. One he was on for twenty minutes but says he talked to no one and is adimant(sp) about it. We have been trying to buy a house and are closing soon (Fri.May 28) He is legally married to someone else(seperated 10 yrs. no kids) but I did all the paperwork for the house in my name only. I have 3 kids,none his ,to think of. My question is : Is there a pattern here of what to expect next and how do I ever trust him out of my sight?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: kimik8
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 2:16am

ummm yes there is a pattern there, but maybe the pattern is in you not him?


it is quite clear who he is.


he is 'with you' but cheats on you.


he is 'married' but living with another person.


its great that you are buying the house in your name only - but PLEASE check the laws in your area. what if he pays for part of the morgage? what if he participates in household expenses? etc.

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Registered: 07-31-2003
In reply to: kimik8
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 12:50am
Why would you make big steps in your life, when he is still legally in someone else's? Does it matter that he is cheating on you by "talking" to other women, when he hasn't closed the last chapter of his life with his wife?

 

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