Cheating

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Cheating
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Mon, 06-02-2003 - 6:37pm
I’ve been dating my Boyfriend for about a year and 7 months, and well I've cheated on him a number of times, before, we tried again and well I've done it again. But this time this person means the world to me but he’s not everything my boyfriend is. I don’t know how to choose, and i'm known to make bad decisions. I don’t know what to do. Its just I’m not happy with my boyfriend half the time and I feel like I’m trying to turn him into the other man in my life. Can you guys help me out? PLEASE!
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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: amberryan2005
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 6:52pm
You aren't ready for a boyfriend. You need to figure out why you are cheating instead of communicating the problems you are having in the relationship. Obviously you are unhappy or you wouldn't find others repeatedly. You need a value-check.

What happens if you chose this new guy,and eventually he doesn't mean the world to you? Will you discuss that with him or find someone else to cheat with?

Why do you need to choose? Why not choose neither? Do you often overlap boyfriends? Why not be without a boyfriend and figure out what steps you are going to take to find happiness from within and treat others better.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: amberryan2005
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 6:58pm
I don't think you're REALLY interested in a one-man relationship. If you can cheat this easily...why not collect a harem (of men) who will be available when you get the urge? I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there who are ready to....err....satisfy your needs!

In a way...I feel sad for you since you're never REALLY GONNA KNOW when the right guy comes along. Then again...maybe that's not important to you?

Just keep in mind one thing the next time you cheat....ALL of your partners can do it too! !

Pianoguy