Is this cheating?

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Is this cheating?
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 8:30am
Hi -

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 12:24pm
I don't think it was in a sexual way.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 12:34pm

Everyone has their own boundaries about what feels acceptable and what feels like too much intimacy with someone else in a marriage. You have every right to let him know how you feel, and for your wishes to be respected. He probably did not talk to you because he might have felt criticized or judged. It's best to express your feelings without blaming the other. Let him know you're not judging him, but simply expressing how it made you feel, and that you request that this not happen again.


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Registered: 07-28-2007
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 2:17pm

Well, like some of the other posters, if it bothers you and you ask your husband not to do it, then I think he should be considerate and stop doing it.
However, I still don't really understand why it bothered you... but, that's not the point.

Two of my best friends are a couple and when the three of us are out the guy will sometimes put his arm around his wife and I. Granted, in this friendship I've actually known the guy for half of my life, we were friends first and he's more of an older brother than anything, but I know he does it so it doesn't look quite so obvious that I'm the single girl standing "alone" when the three of us are out together. But, if my other friend (his wife) was bothered by it, then I'd want him to stop.

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