cheating with friends husband

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Registered: 08-10-2004
cheating with friends husband
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 10:37am
I have been married for 5 years and am unhappy and have 1 young child but lately I have been hanging out with my friends husband we talk and pretty much that is it. He knows how i feel about my husband and he says if he didnt have kids he wouldnt be married either. Well recently we did a bad thing and slept together. Now I really do see how I really miss my old life because my husband is older and boring (we usually only have sex like once every 2 weeks)and my mystery man made me feel like a woman again what do I do???

My mystery man calls me once a day and he even flirts around his wife??????
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Registered: 08-02-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 11:26am
I really do feel it's a terrible thing what you guys did. It is definitely not right for you to rediscover yourself with someone else's husband...much less when you are married yourself. I think you should let your husband know how you feel, get his input, then decide whether or not you want to work things out or get a divorce. As for your friend's husband...stop this right now! Not to pick on you or anything but does it feel good to be a backstabber? Does it feel good to sit there looking into your friends face knowing what you did with her husband? Any person with a conscience would feel guilty at this point and it's only going to lead to more problems if this gets out. I really advise you to either work things out or get divorced. It's okay to feel how you are feeling but sleeping with your friends husband is not the answer. It may be providing you with the excitement you are seeking right now but in the end it will only lead to disaster!
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Registered: 07-25-2004
Tue, 08-10-2004 - 12:06pm
I agree with the 2nd post. It is not even acceptable what you guys did. As an ex-wife whose husband cheated, I can only imagine what his wife may be going through and if this woman is YOUR friend, when she starts to get suspicious about her husband, you'll be the one she turns to and how can you honestly listen to her and give her advice about what to do if you are the one he is doing it with????? Never in my life would I ever choose a man over my friends, no matter what. Even if she and I were no longer friends, bottom line is that was her man at some point and if you ever valued and respected that friendship, you'll respect the committment she had to him.

Staying in a marriage because of children is not the answer. Trust me. If you are that unhappy and feel that you have lost your spark and no longer know who you are, then talk to your husband about this and see if he is willing to make some changes. If it's just really over, take the steps necessary to make it official and THEN go on with your life and meeting other men. Don't do it while you are still married. You have only created more problems and you don't even know it yet.