Is Cheating like this norm

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Is Cheating like this norm
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Tue, 03-11-2008 - 11:32am

My wife of 6 years, total years togethere 10, cheated - during the time she was cheating she braged to everyone her family frends neghbors even had him at the house for sex when I was at work and my sister in the other room, my sister did not know. my wife always told me that she thought oral sex was nasty and she does not do that - I found out that during the time she was cheating she performed oral sex on the guy til he orgasumed around that same time we had an argument about her not doing me (I did not know at the time she was cheating) she told me it was nasty and I dont have to do her. I also found out that the guy told her at one point that he was burning down there and she should go and get checked out which she did
I dont know the out come - but she continued with him - she left him after I found out the affair lasted for 4 months - my question is how could she go out and perform oral sex on a stranger while at the same time telling me no is this behavor normal for cheaters please any advise - we are still together but I cannot understand this she offers no answers. And no I have never cheated on her

Please advise why would anyone behave like this and why give oral to a stranger and tell your husband no because you thing it is nasty

Help me understand this
Help me understand this
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 12:52pm

Welcome to the board rhrh1212,


I'm not sure there is an answer to that question.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 3:44pm

Welcome to the board,


We can't answer why your wife would prefer oral sex on this man and not on you. This is only something she can answer.


Why did you decide to stay with her, and what are you doing to repair the marriage?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2008
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 3:39pm
i m sorry that this happened to u...the only theory that i can come up with is maybe she thinks oral sex is dirty and that goes along w havng an affair, to her maybe she can perform oral during the affair because its dirty and the affair is dirty...from what i know some people have this kind of thinking.
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Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 2:29pm
I think that pinkstar is onto something.