Cheating without sex???
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Cheating without sex???
| Sat, 07-14-2007 - 11:07pm |
My husband is texting another female all the time. Obviously I know about it, but he tries really hard to keep it from me. When I question him about it, he blows up...so I keep it bottled up inside. I am to the point that divorce keeps entering my mind. I know that he isn't having sex with her, or that he even sees her. There isn't a minute in the day that he isn't accounted for. My question is, should I be okay with him texting someone else? Am I making a big deal out of nothing?

I am unable ot give legal or medical advice. My opinions are based on my experiences and my personal research.
Do you think someone who really loves you needs to secretly send explicit Emails to his ex-girlfriend?
Exes are tricky people to deal with, because on one hand your partner can say "I've already been there and I know I don't want to go back" but really, they are the easiest people to cheat with. That comfort level has already been established, and it's common for someone to think, subconsciously, that it doesn't really "count" because sleeping with her again isn't going to raise the count of people he's had sex with.
I'm ashamed to admit this but I've been there, a long time ago.
Of course it's possible to have pure intentions and friendships after dating, but all I can say is be wary of exes. The distance between you two is not going to work in your favor with this. I think you should vow to stop reading his Email but he also needs to be confronted about this and you should tell him that you're not going to accept him writing explicit Email to other women. Being in love with someone should NEVER trump your ability to stand up for yourself.
I agree with you, Egg--this situation sounds like trouble to me. Why would he be sending fun and flirty emails to the ex if he weren't planning (or at least fantasizing about) some flirty fun with her?
Jaz, the fact that you're going to be long-distance soon does not improve the situation. I wish I weren't so pessimistic here, but it sounds like he's already setting up something for while you're away.
Edited 7/15/2007 11:58 am ET by geoteo
Edited 7/15/2007 2:17 pm ET by geoteo