children after divorce

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Registered: 05-19-2004
children after divorce
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 11:41pm
I read about the poster withMIL causing trouble. I am contemplating and hopefully will have the courage to get a divorce soon. My husband and I have entirely different philosohies of raising children. I believe in discipline and responsibility. He is the good times guy. How do I manage after divorce and not get these kids thoroughly confused and messed up with two parents who have very differing views of life. My husband never went past a childish interaction and thinking. He never reached what I call an adult thinking and mentality. Any advise appreciated. If doubleblde happens to see this, I would doubly appreciate her input, but please all others advise is valued. Thanks.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 2:34pm
Co-Parenting After Divorce: How to Raise Happy, Healthy Children in Two-Home Families by Diana Shulman

Being consistant is key. When he has to have them all to himself and clean up after them, he may change somewhat. Let it unfold, set boundaries and be consistant. If at some point it gets really bad, consider counseling for the kids to help them adjust and cope. My best to you.


Carrie