Choosing between my mother or husband
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|Wed, 05-28-2003 - 2:57pm|
This news came just a few days after I had moved across the country to be with my husband of 3 years. He and I had problems and have been separated for the past 10 months. With my mother's condition, I felt very conflicted about the move. I left behind all my family, friends and relatives to try and make a new life with my husband. But, he and I are still having problems, making it hard to justify being so far away from my mother. I'm confused about his true feeling toward me. At times, my husband really seems to appreciate that I'm here, and is very caring and sweet toward me. But, other times he picks fights over nothing, criticizes me for the smallest things, and just acts like I've disrupted his happy single life...and some of the things he says are so hurtful.
On the one hand I want to keep trying to work things out with him, he has his good side and our relationship has things that are worth fighting for. But, I am feeling so sad and guilty about being away from my mother right now. She has always been there for me, and is an incredible person....she would never ask me to come back no matter how badly she wanted me to, she has always put everyone else's interests before her own. Going back just for extended visits isn't an option either, due to the distance, work, and finances, so I have to choose between moving back or staying with my husband. I'm scared of losing my husband....I waited months to be with him again and we have so many plans in place, and with the shaky ground we are on, if I move back now, I know it will be the end this time -- for good. But, I'm also very scared that my mother's time here is now limited, and I don't want to waste it by being far away from her.
Please, I'd appreciate your opinions on this.