Cofused

Why oh why would you keep doing this to yourself?

Sever with this guy and don't look back. Who cares what his reasons are for not feeling "connected" with you - If he were the right guy, he wouldn't be telling you exactly why he can't connect wtih you or trying to make you more vulnerable to him... He would just fit with you. He has been unable to successfully find a partner so he wants to force you to fit with him so that he doesn't have to do any work finding the right person. You ended up disconnecting the second time because you know that he's probably just going to suddenly come up with a reason to stop dating you. He is the wrong man for you and you are the wrong woman for him.

I have not a clue in the world why you would leave yourself open to this a third time.