Cold Feet--long, but could use help!!!

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Cold Feet--long, but could use help!!!
Mon, 08-16-2004 - 5:14pm
About five weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I had been dating a year and he had moved in about a week before. For the past six months we have talked about the idea of getting married, we just hadn't wanted to rush and felt we should give our relationship a little more time to grow. I think without the pregnancy we probably would have gotten engaged by the end of the year and married sometime next spring.

Becuase of the baby we have decided to move everything up and are getting married two months from now. It has been a lot of change for me recently, though I was handling it all well until now. Now I am wondering if I am making a mistake and moving too soon or for the wrong reasons. My close friends whose opinion I do trust think I should go ahead. I have a history of "sitting on the fence" as they call it and they all believe that I seem truly happy with this man. I agree, and I can't imagine losing him. I want to be with him both because he is a good partner for me and he is the father of my child, but sometimes I think "What if I don't know everything about him and there is something that really bugs me?" "What if I don't love him enough?" "What if I had changed my mind if we waited?" I'm not young, 37, and I would think I should know my own mind a little better. We are happy now and I have no reason to believe that we won't be happy later, but I am so scared. What makes the fear go away? Am I missing something?