Cold Feet or Something Else?

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Registered: 05-22-2008
Cold Feet or Something Else?
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Thu, 05-22-2008 - 11:07am
I'm a 27 year old woman and am engaged to my boyfriend of over six years. He is a wonderful man, generous and kind and incredibly supportive. We laugh and smile a lot when we're together.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 1:57pm

Welcome to the board atauba2008,


I think you are right to have the questions you do.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 2:34pm

Welcome to the board atauba2008,


I think you are right to be a little worried. I think it is time to sit down with him and have a serious talk with him. Let him know that you love him and want to be with him, but you want to make sure that he wants to same thing because his behavior seems to be indicating otherwise.


Best of luck to you.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 4:05pm

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Registered: 05-22-2008
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 5:58pm
Thank you all for your comments. We have talked about this extensively, but we will sit down and talk about it again. Hopefully our talk will lead to a firm resolution.
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 6:35pm

Whoa, girl, slow down.

1. Resignation
2. Moving
3. MARRIAGE

Ok, so-- what, he's not allowed to be nervous about any of this?

1. Look at this from his perspective and try to understand his feelings, not just your own, you'll get a lot farther n your marriage
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2. Don't go making mountains out of molehills, and don't let anyone else go making them in your world either.

Talk WITH him and LISTEN to what he has to say. Be a calming force in your lives.

Good luck,

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 6:48pm
Hey, I don't have anything to add that has not already been said (the ladies here are good) but wanted to wish you good luck with everything. He's not being nearly as cooperative as he should be, I don't blame you for feeling down about this. A wedding is a nerve-wracking time but it's also supposed to be a happy event where you are giving it 100%. I hope he gets over this slump, maybe it is just nerves who knows, but good luck resolving it! Let us know what happens.
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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 9:12pm

Is he resigning his comission from the military?

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Fri, 05-23-2008 - 9:06pm

Very good advice from sandradee!


OP, what exactly constitutes a "freak out"?