Cold or just Emotionally shy?
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Cold or just Emotionally shy?
| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 11:40am |
I've been dating a guy for the past month and he's been great so far as he always calls when we don't meet and always finds time for me when he's busy with work. The only thing which is bothering me is that up till now he has NEVER complimented me or told anything about liking me. We mostly talk about superficial and everyday things and also sometimes we don't find things to say to each other and that really worries me. I like him because we share the same values and unlike past boyfriends always finds time for me to call or meet me. Could someone please tell me whether I'm being paranoid and if i should talk to him about this

You have 2 different issues here....shyness and if the man you're interested in considers you "just a friend!"
Issue #1: Some men have absolutely NO CLUE about paying a woman a compliment. Sometimes this is due to shyness...and sometimes...stupidity! Hell...some of 'our daddies' taught us to be macho and a few of us forget that a lady likes a compliment or two! Sooo---this is where YOU can subtlely ask your b/f whether he prefers your hair long or short, if he likes women in jeans, a dress or a business suit, or if he has a preference for blondes, brunettes or red heads. .
Issue #2: You might be expecting more from this relationship than he is??? If he is very casual and is avoiding any "terms of endearment"---he probably just considers you a good friend! And sometimes...it's a lot easier for a woman to talk to "a good male friend" about an awkward subject than with a serious boyfriend!
Hope this helps you a little?
Pianoguy