college dating

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Registered: 07-24-2004
college dating
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Sat, 07-24-2004 - 12:11pm
I'm a 20-year-old female that has been dating a wonderful guy for 1 1/2 years. He's probably everything I could ask for - he's respectful, cute, smart and treats me well. He's probably the kind of guy that I would want to marry. However, sometimes I feel like I want to date other people. He's only my second boyfriend ever, and I feel like I never got to go through that fun 'fling' dating stage. I feel like I should date other people now while I'm still young and have the chance. Should I stay together with him or try to break it off? I really don't want to hurt his feelings because a lot of my friends say they would die to have a boyfriend like him. What should I do?
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Registered: 07-15-2004
In reply to: akirby99
Sat, 07-24-2004 - 6:39pm
In my humble opinion, you're not missing out on too much with the "fling thing". nice guys are hard to find. If you're thinking that you want to see other people then maybe your boyfriend isn't the right person for you. But he does seem like a really great guy. No one can really tell you what to do about this...you need to do what you think is the right thing. You could go out with guys and realize that not everyone is as great as your boyfriend, you never know. But really- you're not missing out on anything really great.
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Registered: 02-03-2004
In reply to: akirby99
Sun, 07-25-2004 - 1:56am
What is he not giving you? He sounds great and you would risk loosing him to experiment with other men! Their is nothing more exciting than meeting new people of the opposite sex but what do you want from it? just the excitement, experience, thrill! If you crave this then you should break it off with him and have fun, you will learn much and really appreciate what you once had and search for it again!

Good luck

Brent

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Registered: 01-09-2004
In reply to: akirby99
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 10:35am
I am in college, too. I am 22. I haven't dated much. I am happy I didn't. It saved me from a lot of hurt. You love him. He is the one you want to be with. Say that over and over in your head. If he feels the same way, then why are you wanting to take time off?

My boyfriend and I are going through a period where he feels like he is drifting and doesn't want to. We are fighting for our relationship instead of looking for others to try. Think. You may regret it if your take a break.

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Registered: 08-02-2004
In reply to: akirby99
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 3:44am
Hi!

akirby99, I really know how you're feeling. I am in the same situation with my boyfriend, he's perfect and we have a great relationship, but I do wonder if I should go out there and "date" other people and be young. I think the grass is always greener on the other side, and that why would you give up someone as great as your boyfriend for the pure experience of a "fling"? I think the last thing you would wanna do is give up a stable relationship for something totally unknown, which could be below expectations.