Commitment Shy

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2007
Commitment Shy
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Sun, 03-16-2008 - 3:03am

I would appreciate any advice....


I have been with my boyfriend for over two years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: kimmmy777
Sun, 03-16-2008 - 10:31am

When he tells you not to worry and to relax, how do you respond? Do you comply, or do you push the conversation anyway? Because after two years, if a talk about marriage is important to you, you should really be having one. The way you need to respond is, "no, this is important to me and it's not right for you to brush me off like this when there's something I need to know in order to continue a relationship with you"

Unfortunately, you're being given a classic line to dodge marriage entirely. Even more unfortunately, you are still with him so he is being shown that he can simply exist with you under no formal commitment whatsoever and you will stick around.

When you start showing him that his lines don't work on you anymore then he will panic and either be willing to talk about it or not. In which case, it is best to assume that he doesn't want to get married ever.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: kimmmy777
Sun, 03-16-2008 - 4:12pm

Welcome to the board kimmmy777,


With or without marriage are you where you want to be (with him)?