communication

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Registered: 06-14-2004
communication
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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 8:46pm
I wnat to be able to talk to my fiance like we used to. I try to talk to him and all I get is later...I don't want to talk now. We used to spend hours talking. Now we barely get a moment of piece. I feel that a huge part of it is we are both very stressed. We have two kids, my daughter and his son. I work swing shift and he works days. Money is very tight right now. I am working on getting a promotion. He just got a raise. There are just so many things happening. I would like to talk to him about finances, our relationship (some time to ourselves), how he feels, how I feel. We plan on getting married August of 2005. But, I don't feel I can do that with the way communication is going. He orders me to do things ( no please or thank you), continues to remind me how to do things I do everyday. I just feel like I am getting pused around. I would like so advice....what should I do to make it work?
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Registered: 05-06-2003
In reply to: mkstokes
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:13pm
When he says "later" ask him "when?" Make him give you a time and hold him to it. The things you want to talk about are very important. If he doesw not think so, you are right to question whether you two have a future together. You are letting him get away with avoidance. Don't keep putting this off for "a more convienient time". That is a scary and distructive path because, as you know, life doesn't always give us that. If it's important to you, that should matter very much to him. Tell him *how* important it is. Whether he makes the effort will speak volumes about where you fall within his priorities.

Keep looking up^, Susan.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mkstokes
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:21pm
How long have you been dating?

Erin

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