communication

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2004
communication
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Mon, 05-17-2004 - 3:42pm
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now although most of the first two were spent in different cities. I moved back to the same city a year ago and we decided to live apart first to allow the relationship to progress naturally. Although I am not sure I am ready to live together, I feel like I have no idea how I fit into his life in the future. I feel we have major communication problems in the sense that we very rarely discuss our relationsip and needs to eachother.

Personally I know I have a difficult time bringing this stuff up and recently had to initiate a dialogue via email because i was never getting around to doing it in person. Its like I get stage fright.

I need some communication advice or tools given that we obviously both have a difficult time confronting and discusing issues concerning our relationship. Although we do eventually do it (every 6 months or so), I would rather keep an open dialogue and discuss things more often. I'm just not sure where to begin. Is initiating discussion by email or a letter a bad thing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2003
In reply to: melevanson
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 6:17pm

I completely understand! When you get some time, check out the links below for some great tips...


20 Reasons you Like/Love Someone (writing it down before helps!)


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlgogirl&msg=6490.1&ctx=0


Conscious Verses Unconscious Relating


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlgogirl&msg=6462.1&ctx=0


Timeless Tips for Long-Lasting Romance


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlgogirl&msg=6527.1&ctx=0


Basic Guidelines for Conflict Resolution


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlgogirl&msg=6500.1&ctx=0








Communication Tips


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlgogirl&msg=5811.1


 

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