Complete confused

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Registered: 10-06-2008
Complete confused
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Mon, 10-06-2008 - 7:38pm

Ok, i posted this down on a different board too but no answers yet, maybe

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 8:16pm
Have you discussed his low libido with him?
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Registered: 10-06-2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 7:56am

I have not.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 1:59pm

Welcome to the board ckgkelly,


When you talk to him, you could tell him that "relationship issuses are reflected in the bedroom and that since you still want him sexually, you'd like to hear his input on the lack of sex".


If he's not depressed or on meds, it could be that his hormone levels are off.


Other iVillage resources: Mismatched Libidos


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Registered: 09-09-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 11:25am

Hi There,


I have a similar issue going on in my relationship.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 11:35am

This is a confusing situation and the only way to clear it up is by discussing it with him. Be honest, be open. Ask him why the sex stopped? (He may not know the deeper reasons, but find out what he's thinking of?) It's hard to go backwards in a relationship from having sex and chemistry to being friends. It's important to understand and define what's going on. If you are friends in his head, and lovers in yours, then there's going to be constant confusion. So, get your cards out on the table. Be honest, open, kind and clear. And believe what he tells you. Make sure he's clear as well, not hemming and hawing and holding out promises for tomorrow. Then also, see if you want a friendship with a guy, or want to use that time and put all your feelings into a relationship that is male/female romance and can grow into all you are hoping for.


Best wishes,