Concerned with his lying
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Concerned with his lying
| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 3:54pm |
I've been with my boyfriend for going on 6 months now and he is two years older than me (20). Sounds very early for planning ahead but we are very much in love and understand each other completely. There is, however, part of our relationship that concerns me. When we started going out I knew he was into watching and getting pictures of porn and that he'd been doing it for sometime now. I have never been with a boyfriend who has liked porn to such a degree as him, infact porn was never an issue with any of the others. As our relationship progressed I asked him if he could get rid of all his porn and he said he would. This happend 3-4 months ago and yet when i was with him the other day he still had a dvd with it on. I know this cannot be solved but I was wondering what i should do. I dont wanna pressure him and keep nagging him but i want him to know that im concerned and i feel hurt by him looking at better looking women.
Thanks xXx
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| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 5:32pm |
The one thing that I have learned through relationships is that boys will be boys. I can understand your position about the porn thing and them looking at other women, but it isn't that they compare you to them and eventually as you get older, you tend to not care so much anymore. While I don't condone it 100% myself, if you keep nagging them, they will start to feel like they are hiding it from their mother or father. Tell him you don't appreciate him having all this porn around and ask him to keep one or two of his favorites and have you help him decide which ones to keep. That way you can know that you are tossing out most of the porn and only keeping a few that you are okay with. That way he will feel like he can trust you and may be more open to sharing these things with you rather than hiding them from you.
| Tue, 07-27-2004 - 5:40pm |
Thanks, i realise that i shouldnt be nagging him all the time because i dont wanna push him away so that he feels he has to hide things from me, its just im a very emotional person and i dont take reactions very well when i dont know what to expect. I'll try what you said. Thanks very much for your help!!!
