Conflicted about behavior & my jealousy.

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Registered: 09-08-2005
Conflicted about behavior & my jealousy.
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Tue, 07-23-2013 - 3:59pm

So, maybe all i needed to do was verbalize the fact that some of those pictures bothered me. So far, he has not liked any provocative pictures :) Hopefully, it stays this way. Thanks for all your replies. Bye.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 08-02-2013 - 10:22am

I don't know why you edited your original post, but I remember it anyway.  Guess what?  The problem is really yours, not his.  First, jealousy is a sign of insecurity on your part.  You fear that he thinks they're more beautiful or more sexy than you are.  If you were a secure person, you wouldn't worry about his feelings for you, and what he's looking at wouldn't really bother you.  He's not very considerate, either.  If he's aware that it bothers you, he would stop it!  But then again, if he's doing some kind of research for something he plans to do......then why should he stop it because it's unrealistically bothering you?  You need to either work on yourself, or end the relationship.  One or the other.  I was married to an horribly insecure man and he almost drove me crazy with his unfounded jealousy!  If I even glanced at a man, I was accused of  "wanting" that man.  It was awful, and I divorced him.......for that and many other reasons, all relating to the insecurity.

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