Confront him or let it go?

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Registered: 02-18-2006
Confront him or let it go?
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Mon, 11-19-2007 - 2:45pm

Ok I am going to make this as short as possible. My b/f and I have been together for 2 yrs and have been living together for one year. A few months ago he became friends with a woman he worked with. His good friend started dating her. They broke up for the last time a few weeks ago. She said this time it is final. Well I have always had a gut feeling about her that for some reason I can't seem to trust the two of them. I just have such an uneasy feeling about their friendship. I have asked my b/f about it several times and he says they are just friends. Today I was looking at the cell phone bill because our phones are on the same plan. We have 700 share minutes. And we went over this month. For the month of November I used 139 of those, he used 631!!! So I looked at the call details to see why he used so many. 407 of the 631 minutes were to the female friend. So then I looked at his texts, 156 text just between the two of them. The last month was a lot less. So this is the first month they have talked this much. But the thing is, we are both very busy and don't get to spend a lot of time together, I have been complaining that I feel like we hardly ever get to see each other. But how can he make so much time to talk to

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 11-19-2007 - 4:59pm

Welcome to the board jayjay,


::I'm just wondering, am I making a big deal out of the cell phone bill?


Ah, NO you are NOT making a big deal out of the cell phone bill. He's carrying on at the very least an EMOTIONAL AFFAIR with her and because he was in contact with an ex behind your back and created trust issues, you should be very concerned.


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You have the cell phone, I'd just hand it to him and tell him it's either her or you and counseling or it's over.


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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 4:40pm

Jayjay0602,


Yes, you should confront him. I would just tell him that you went over on the minutes and you were trying to figure out why when you noticed all the calls and texts between the two of them and you want to know what is going on.