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|Fri, 08-31-2012 - 2:49pm|
my husband had an affair over 8 yrs ago before we were married....i never forgot but got past it. he is a very naturally flirty person and loves to "innocently flirt" with other women alot of the times in front of me making inappropriate comments! i hate it and tell him all the time but its like he stops for a min then goes right back. he works for a very large company and works with alot of single females well alot of these females have his num and he texts them when i find out i ask him to stop he does then months later he's texting a new female! the last one was a female single and young i saw her name in recent texts when he was trying to show me something in his phone. i waited til we were alone and asked him who she was and why they r texting i asked to see the texts if it was all innocent texting but the first second he got he deleted all the texts from her now i wonder what the texts were about. they had a team lunch and it was just people on his team that were gonna b there low and behold this female isnt on his team but just happened to show up at this lunch and i was mad he says i cant control who comes and yes that may b true but he has no regard for my feelings at all when i try and discuss things with him he just sits silently listens to me with no response i have had this issue alot with diff females some making inappropriate comments on his fb calling him baby at work but he says they dont even talk like that! i dont know what to do we work opposite shifts and i rarely see him he is always grumpy for one reason or another when its just us everything is perfect as long as i ignore all the texting and lying he does he was caught texting my sister and was asking her if she does oral good....now thats just how he is but i feel disrespected when he does stuff like that but am i just being overly jealous? he lies to me about the smallest things like r u still texting my sister he will say no and i will see he is. not inaprpriately at that then why lie to me? i dont understand but i am hurt by the lies and i feel if he was happily married he would keep his number to himself and no text these women at work? i honestly beleive theres no affair but how can i make him understand and actually stop? is it possible?