Confused

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Confused
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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 2:31pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and have lived together the past year. He is moving an hour and a half away in a month. His job takes up a lot of his time and thoughts. Also, he currently is quitting smoking and needs to keep his mind occupied at all times so he won't think about it. To do this he is constantly on the computer when he is off work. I am feeling frustrated and scared about the move, because I feel like we might drift away. He has reassured me that we will be okay, but in the beginning he will be very busy opening his new shop. I wish we could spend more time together now since we probably won't the next few months, but he gets easily frustrated when I want to talk and says he can't get stressed since his body is nicotine free! SO my question is do I let things ride out until his cigarette craving subside?
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: rah1006
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 3:14pm
Since you've already talked to him about your thoughts and fears, there isn't much else you CAN do except let it ride out. Only time will tell what happens, and if he's preoccupied with quitting smoking, moving, opening a new shop, his job, the computer, etc....that is how he is prioritizing his life right now. It's unfortunate you don't fit more prominently into the scheme of things, and I don't blame you for feeling the effects of that, but...other than express how we feel about things, you can't make a person feel or behave any other way than how they choose to. Good luck.