Confused

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Registered: 07-17-2003
Confused
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Wed, 10-15-2008 - 3:31pm

Hi - I met this guy online in June, we hit it off right away, started dating exclusive with in a week, I would stay at his place twice a week and every other weekend. Yes we moved really fast, he was great with me, make dinner, iron my work clothes, pack me lunch just swept me off my feet. Things starting changing 2 1/2 months into the relationship, we started fighting and picking at each other over insignificant stuff..


He broke up with me 3 weeks ago but we were still hanging out and doing things like a couple.. a week ago we had a misunderstanding, but he is the kind of person that shuts down does not communicate. He reached out to me about 3 days later I called him back and never heard back from him. So I waited days went by, I decided to reach out since I thought things were over for sure I just needed closure I wrote him an email... just expressing how I felt, he replied and said he loved me and missed me but that he felt I was adding more stress to him because he is dealing with so much stress and is very unhappy at work. That he did not know if I can handle him being stressed out,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: happiestlovable
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 5:50pm

Welcome to the board happiestlovable,


Sorry you are going through this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
In reply to: happiestlovable
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 6:05pm

It seems like the relationship just moved too fast.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2003
In reply to: happiestlovable
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 6:14pm

Do you think i should just leave things the way they are? Just allow him to look for me? Tomorrow should I just hold off until he contacts me if we are going to meet?


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
In reply to: happiestlovable
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 7:04pm

He obviously doesnt handle stress well and feels that if you are exposed to that side of him, things wouldnt work out or that he'd blow it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
In reply to: happiestlovable
Wed, 10-15-2008 - 9:52pm

I wouldn't wait to see if he calls.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2003
In reply to: happiestlovable
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 2:03pm
Hi, thank you for the response. But I will not contact him anymore, he was the one that suggusted today and it was a maybe. So I TM him yesterday morning to let me know.. I have tried my best he knows how I feel... But if I do not hear from
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-11-2008
In reply to: happiestlovable
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 5:33pm

I think you're right --

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2003
In reply to: happiestlovable
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 5:39pm
No I have not heard from him.. I also send him an e card yesterday a funny one to make him smile he opened it at 11:15 pm but i have not heard from him at all.. I don't think i will...
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2008
In reply to: happiestlovable
Thu, 10-16-2008 - 11:18pm
Wow i was just in a similar situation before with a guy and his overbearing job.