Confused.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2007
Confused.....
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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 2:05pm

I have never posted to a board before so please bear with me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 2:20pm

Welcome to the board moxyladee1,


Okay this is my advice for you.


1. Don't marry him until you are sure that is what you really want


2. Maybe you should move in with him before you get married. People learn a lot of things they didn't know about their partner when they start living together. If you

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2007
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 2:37pm

Thanks so much for you quick reply!


We have discussed moving in togther prior to getting married.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 3:07pm

Welcome to the board moxyladee1,


Have you consider pre-marital counseling to help you address the issues and discuss them openly with your guy?





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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2007
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 3:19pm

yes, thanks. Actually I have.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 3:28pm

Oh, then try

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2007
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 3:38pm

Great!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 5:25pm

Marriage, is, of course a huge decision and no one can tell you if he's the right one or not. You say that you do not live together and you enjoy the one on one time with your son. That's respectful to your son and understandable. However, now that you are engaged (and also doubting it), perhaps it might be a good idea to actually have him move in and see how it goes? This will let you know what it's actually like to live with him and see if you want to do this for the rest of your life.


Take your time with this decision. It's a big one.


Best wishes,

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2007
In reply to: moxyladee1
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 5:58pm

Yes, it most certainly is. And thank you. I appreciate yours and everyones input.