CONFUSED

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Registered: 09-26-2005
CONFUSED
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Tue, 05-15-2007 - 7:44pm
HI, I HAVE NO WHERE ELSE TO TURN. I HAVE AN EX OF ALMOST 6 YEARS. HE AND I BROKE UP OVER A YEAR AGO, BUT NEVER REALLY BROKE UP. WE HAVE COMMON FRIENDS, HIS BEST FRIEND/ROOMATE/CO WORKER IS ALSO MY BEST FRIEND. WE GO OUT TO THE BAR ON WEEKENDS. WELL MY EX HAS BEEN DATING A WOMEN 14 YEARS YOUNGER THEN HE IS. THEY BROKE UP AND HE STARTED TO COME OUT WITH HIS FRIEND MORE. SO WE WOULD SPEND TIME TOGETHER. HE SAYS "HE WANTS TO TAKE OUR FRIENDSHIP SLOW", TO THE FRIEND. WELL I ASKED HIM IF HE WANTS ME IN HIS LIFE AND HE DID SAY YES. WELL WE STARTED AND HE STARTED TO COME OUT EVERY WEEKEND. PEOPLE ASSUME WE ARE TOGETHER WHEN WE ARE OUT. WELL WE WOULD TEXT BACK AND FORTH DURING THE WEEK AND HE WOULD JUST ON THE PHONE WHEN I AM TALKING TO OUR COMMON FRIEND. OK. SO RECENTLY HE AND THIS KID GOT BACK TOGETHER. BUT NOTHINGS ARE DIFFERENT AND NOT IN A BAD WAY. NOW THE DAY HE OFFICIALLY GOT BACK TOGETHER WITH HER. WE HAD A TEXTING FIGHT WELL HE TEXT ME THINKING I SAID SOMETHING BY TEXT WHICH I DIDNT. WELL HE SAID HE WAS SORRY AND SO ON. LATER THAT NIGHT HIS FRIEND CAME OUT AND AGAIN WAS TOLD TO TELL ME HE WAS SORRY, SINCE HE DOESNT WANT TO LOOSE ME? NOW THEY ALL WORK TOGETHER INCLUDING HER AND A SIBLING AND LAST WEEK HE HAD ME COME UP TO THE JOB TO WASH MY CAR. IT WAS FUNNY, SINCE OUR COMMON FRIEND WASHED IT WHILE WE CHATTED AND HE HAND FED ME. I STILL CALL HIM BABY AND HE RESPONDS. HE HAS BECOME THE MAN HE WAS WHEN WE WERE FIRST TOGETHER. HE KNOWS I LOVE TO BE FED, I THINK ITS SWEET AND HE DOES IT EVERYTIME WE ARE TOGETHER? SO WHAT DO I DO. IM CONFUSED NOW THAT HE IS BACK WITH HER, WHY HE IS ACTING THIS WAY TOWARDS ME. (NOW, SHE IS A TRUE GOLDIGGER AND HE WENT FINANCIALLY UPSIDE DOWN WHEN THEY DATED BEFORE. ALSO WITH THE 14 YEAR AGETEXTING DIFFERENCE THERE IS A PROBLEM. SHE WORKS 2 JOBS AND ATTENDS SCHOOL ALSO). IM CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO?
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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: cherry0125
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 6:55pm
In away i think he does want his cake and to eat it to. There is so much more to this that i just dont have patience enough to write. But for the most part this is a man who ran from me. I have always been stable financially and i dont cheat or use people. That is what he is used to and everyone thinks he is afriad. Now that is something he has told me in the past. Things are like they were when we first met. Now we did distance ourselfs from each other with the only tie being our common best friend. NOw after they had broken up to having no feelings for each other and fighting daily, he started coming out more. But when we are together it is like we are together. That part doesnt change. BUt i have become less affectionate and now he is more affectionate. Some people say tell him what i want. But to me he knows this by us sharing the commen friend. I mean i go out to the bar with his best friend. We are very close like siblings. I am just lost on what to do. The friend and I no longer talk about him. But he always brings him up. My ex will always find a reason to pop up when we are on the phone. But i have no clue on what to do. I know what i want and i just dont know how to approach it.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: cherry0125
Sat, 05-19-2007 - 10:04pm
He is having his cake and eating it too. As long as he is seeing another woman, he's off limits.