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| Tue, 03-20-2007 - 11:00am |
me and my boyfriend have been together for just over 2 years. I thought things were better then they have ever been, until today, he said hes bored, and wants me to step up and start making some decisions about everything in our relationship i.e. what we do, when we do it ETC.I told him that was fine, i could do that, i was just so used to doing what he wanted or what we both decided on that i never thought to do exactly what i wanted to do. i asked him if he was happy, and he said yes hes happy, and i make him happy, but i need to breathe a breath of fresh air into him, and i need to spice things up. Is this a bad sign? or has anyone gone through anything simular? Im just confused. i thought everything was perfect... but i guess not.
He was also taking about how he doesnt no where his life is going or what he wants to do with life... which i can see is related to his contract at work coming up in a couple month, he will be unemployed, until he finds another job.. or his current job calls him back for fulltime (which is what he is hoping for).
Thanks for any advice!
He was also taking about how he doesnt no where his life is going or what he wants to do with life... which i can see is related to his contract at work coming up in a couple month, he will be unemployed, until he finds another job.. or his current job calls him back for fulltime (which is what he is hoping for).
Thanks for any advice!

Welcome to the gal_friend,
At least he's communicating what he wants and needs in the relationship. Is he willing to help you by giving you feedback?
gal_friend,
I agree with cl_itwinflame that at least he is willing to communicate his wants/needs with you. That is a good sign. It sounds like he feels like the relationship is in a rut. Which is normal considering you have been together for two years. I would just try to do the things he asked of you. Maybe you could make reservations at a nice restaurant and than out dancing or something afterwards.
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I agree with the others here...
The one thing that we do not have in our relationship is a boring activity scale... she will tell me things she wants to do -- my problem - sometimes I respond the wrong way - not as tactful as I should -- this causes problems -- or she misinterprets what I have said too.
The one area that I still try to get her to be more outgoing in is Sex. As a guy, we tend to also get tired of always seemingly to want/start it and take the lead. We love when the woman takes control. Example of something my DGF did one day last summer -- I was mowing the lawn (outside backyard lawn) and she came up to the patio door and waited until I looked up - then pressed her breasts to the window - turned around and mooned me -- then gave me a huge smile --- saying wanna play!!! Well - we showered together and spend the rest of the morning in more fun activities -- the kids were all gone to ex's houses or at a friends house!!! BUT it was HER IDEA, not mine... or when we are doing dishes and she puts her wet/soaky hands down the front of my pants and asks, "does this need a washing?" with a dirty smile on her face.
I also know she has said that there are things she would like to do that she knows I would not like -- and that upsets her -- the other side of this is that there are things I would like to take her to but I KNOW she would be bored to death with - a cool wood working seminar -- new ideas for something at home -- that part she would -- but not the rest of the techniques etc.
Not sure if this helps -- but he is talking - he has taken the VITAL step to tell you something - lots of guys have a problem even saying something to start with -- so be THANKFUL he does...