Confused

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2004
Confused
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Sun, 10-17-2004 - 6:14pm
I've been dating a man for two months....In the beginning we saw each other once a week and our relationship was platonic. All that changed about 3 weeks ago. Just this past week we had sex for the first time. The sex is very good. He is very sweet, caring and very thoughtful. I am in love with him and have felt this way for about 3 weeks or so. I don't know how he feels. When he is with me he seems totally into me, but I am usually the one to make the plans for the next date. He always wants to see me and seems to do whatever I want.....letting me make the plans.

What confuses me is why he isn't more interested in initiating our dates. I try to wait to see if he will do it. Once and awhile he does, but he usually waits for me. Like I mentioned he really seems to like to be with me. We usually don't talk between dates....sometimes we email each other.

This is making me feel insecure. I really feel it's too early to tell him my feelings. I don't want to scare him away.

In addition.....he was married for about 13 years and his wife cheated on him. He's been divorced about 2 years....he is 40 and I'm 44.

Any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: shazzy1960
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 4:38pm
Ah, a guy that is taking what is offered, instead of going after what he wants with a passion..... could be he's just passive.... Wish I had more advice to offer.


Carrie