Confused about what to do

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Confused about what to do
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Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:09am

Hello everyone. I have a question. I am 33 and my bfriend is 26. We have been together for 4 years and love each other deeply. I am starting to run into a problem however. I am thinking of having a child within the next year or two. He keeps saying he is not sure about it since he is unsure about us "going to the next step." He understands my time clock is ticking. I suggested I would go for artifical insemination if he was not ready. His response to that was he would be uncomfortable with the idea since the child is not biologically his. What would you suggest? Thanks.


Purplekush

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 4:01am

I think

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 11:23am
You are right in the fact that yes he does constantly tell me he loves me but he never says he wants to spend the rest of his life together. He just keeps saying he is not sure if he wants to take it there with me. I kow that if i did wait to start a family, i would be very angry if i missed the opportunity and was no longer able to procreate.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2004
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 5:00pm

After all of your time together, I would take 'not sure' to mean 'no'.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 1:08am
I understand what you are saying and i do agree with you. We had a discussion about it today and i put it to him. I let him know i am frustrated and i will not take it much longer and i let him know i am tires mentally and physically. He keeps saying he does not wanna let go and he wants us to work something out and not to break up. Lord it is so hard.

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