Confused and dont know what to do- someone please help!!!
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|Fri, 04-06-2012 - 4:42am|
Hi in september 2009 i started an affair with a guy who was 22 and i was 28, it started off as just fun and sex. The sex mind you was extremeley passionate and like a love movie basically, we always wanted eachother and the sex was amazing. He used to call and text me all the time, say he liked me by text when he was out with his mates even called me at 3am in the morning on christmas day after a ruck he had in a club. We got really close, he would confide in me and ask for advice on stuff. But then i fell pregnant by the guy i was with even though i tried to finish it with him and the night i concieved i was very drunk and cant remember much but i thought who was the dad as it could have still been the guys i was having an affair with. Obviously i stopped the affair immediatly and realised even though either of them could be the dad i needed to do what was right by my unborn child. Both men i was seeing knew they could have been the father and the guy i had an affair with would still message me when i was pregnant saying he was confused because he really liked me and if the baby where to be his we would go for a meal and see where we will go. Anyway baby was born and it was not the guys i was having the affair with. But the guy i was having the affair with we would message and arrange to meet for sex but he would always let me down and not turn up. He admitted to me when i bumped into him on a night out that he did have feelings for me and i said what changed and he couldnt answer me. He still texts me now about sex saying he doesnt want to give me mixed messages and its just sex but at the same time telling me he wants me and he thinks about the sex we had etc etc all the time, and he wants to know what im most looking forward too when seeing him and that he will always fancy me and i still look very good etc etc thing is he knows i love him is he using that to get what he wants or is it that after all this time to still come back to me is because he feels the same....thing is the way he looks at me and touches and kisses me i just know its there but i think cos he is 24 and not ready to take on an older woman with a baby he ignores his feelings. Can anyone tell me what they think and what i should do????????