confused and heartbroken

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Registered: 03-01-2004
confused and heartbroken
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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 12:39pm
Not sure how to begin but here it goes..... I met my boyfriend 6 years ago. When I met him he was seperated for 8 months. We became really good friends and I helped him out through his seperation and then divorce. He has 2 wonderful children whom I made my own. After 3 years of our friendship we became more then friends and finally admitted our love for each other. We were inseperable, and so very happy. The only thing he missed was his children, he only could see them every second weekend because we lived in a different city. Our rides back home were sad, you could tell that every second weekend wasn't enough for him. When his ex left him the kids were 5 and 6 and now they are 11 and 12. This past year for us have been nothing but wonderful, we were making plans for our future together he couldn't tell me enough how much he loved me and how he finally knows what the feeling of being loved was all about. His realtionship with his ex was always about money, she could never hold a job and was always asking him for money. In the 6 years I've known him he has never said one nice thing about her. Anyways One day his ex calls him crying and she has split up with her fiance that she was with 2 weeks after she had left my boyfriend 6 years ago. Well she wants him back, she told him how much she misses him and how wrong she was to ever leave him, and 3 days later he decided to give her a second chance. He told me he wants his family back, he wants his kids under his roof and no one elses. He said this was his chance to get his kids back. He was leaving me to be with her. I am so devasted about this all, I can't seem to focus on anything else, I'm confused and so emotional. He told me that they (she and the kids) will be moving down this summer. I know his kids mean so much to him but what about her, he said to me that she told him that she's a changed person, and he wants to give her that chance. I'm finding difficult to get over this. It seems that every day is getting harder. Why is this all happening?

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Registered: 03-01-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 6:47pm
At the time of my move yes I wanted to be closer to him so I accepted. And yes very foolish of me. I wasn't thinking, I didn't think it through. Being here definitly has made me grow into a more responsible person, living on my own, purchasing my own house. I lived with my father back home and pretty much didn't have to have a worry in the world about money until I moved. I have gained some independance and responsibilities with the move. I just never realized until now how much my ex boyfriend was part of my life here, and how dependent I became of him.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 6:57pm
So get out there, do new things, find out what thrills and excites you besides "being an adjunct to someone else."

Erin

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