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| Tue, 11-13-2007 - 11:05am |
My girlfriend and I have been going out for 6 years and 8 months and just recently we broke up (3 weeks exactly). She said the reasons were that she seemed that I had no foundation to move on and build a future. I agree that it’s a valid reason; I don't really think that it was just that I have no ambition I guess it's that we were, well I was pretty comfortable living @ home at my parents house w/her because we weren't really paying mortgage or rent and we had it pretty easy and I just wanted to just relax and take advantage of that because I know that things change once we moved out and had a mortgage or rent. I will admit that I had stopped going to school, and she's real big on school. Besides my full-time job I really wasn't doing much of anything else except for playing games and surfing the web. We have been living together for the last 3 years, we had plans to move out on our own in March once I finished paying off my car, since rent is so expensive here in Miami. Everything relationship wise was going good, based on what she told me after we broke up and I agree. She said the only thing that bothered her and lead her to the break up was the fact that she saw no future. I’m in love with this girl and this has been the hardest 3 weeks, I had plans to ask her to marry me after we moved out. I’m trying the whole "ignore her" thing kind of, I say kind of because she hasn't really made any effort to call or email me or nothing! Everyone tells me to just move on but I love this girl WAY too much to just move on. I sent flowers yesterday along with a letter basically telling her how I felt and my plans to build a foundation, I know she got them but she hasn’t contacted me for

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Welcome to the board confused98,
I think you have done everything you can at this point. I think
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I know i'm just supposed to give her the space she wants and I am, but by her not calling me or making any type of contact directly to me does that mean that she has moved on and wants nothing to do with me ?
Welcome to the board confused98,
Feelings and emoitons are not concrete or cast in stone. People go through the routines of their lives, doing things that are expected of them..... in that moment she may have felt it and meant it.
I don't think
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How old are you, Confused, and how old is your gf? You were dating for 6 years? And living with your parents for the whole time? Well, her friends and family were probably telling her to move on. To tell you the truth, without knowing you, I would have told her the same thing. She has her ideas of success, you weren't moving in that direction at all.
Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
Hey thanks for taking the time to reply.
Quick update.
I don't know if this is just me but I asked my grandmother and she said the samething I was thinking without me telling her.
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