Confused and sad.....need help

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-05-2008
Confused and sad.....need help
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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 7:23am

Hi all, I really need some help and advice here because I think my story is a strange one. Let me first introduce myself. I'm a 26 year old Lebanese. I lived in the UK most of my life but currently i'm working in Kuwait.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sun, 07-13-2008 - 6:12pm

It seems that you are a very analytical person and that has caused some problems for your here.


1) You had it all worked out in your head how you would date, talk, visit and along with your culture who you would talk to about her and how long you would be engaged.


2)She seems more 'western' and I am sure that even if she enjoyed your company, you just weren't a match for her personality. Holding your hands and spending lots of time with you does not bind her to marriage.


3)Stop over analyzing every move she made. This is not about how you did or didn't treat her. She is 20 years old and isn't ready for marriage. YOu said that the engagement period is for falling in love and that didn't happen to her.


'If things don't go too well during the engagement period, we break up, its as simple as that and its no biggy'


Isn't that what she did then?

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Registered: 07-05-2008
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 7:10am

I can see that she got in over her head. I dont understand why she didnt tell you or her father that she doesnt want a husband right now or anyone telling her who to date.

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Registered: 07-05-2008
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 7:16am

It seems that you are a very analytical person and that has caused some problems for your here.


Unfortunately yeah.


She seems more 'western' and I am sure that even if she enjoyed your company, you just weren't a match for her personality. Holding your hands and spending lots of time with you does not bind her to marriage.


Thats true and if I met her through University or from the streets, then I would have taken more caution but because I met from the parents and the fact that it was my brothers wife that intrduced us to her and she used to speak to my sister and my father every now and then over the phone....all this is what gave me the idea that she is up for it.


'If things don't go too well during the engagement period, we break up, its as simple as that and its no biggy'


Isn't that what she did then?


Unfortunately no. We spoke for a couple of months over the phone and then I saw her for 4 days and when I spoke to her about engagement, thats when things got bad. So we didn't even go through the engagement period anyway to even

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Mon, 07-14-2008 - 10:09pm

"It was an easy opportunity I believe because I gave her the options and it was by email, not phone and she still didn't reply and said to my sister "i didn't reply because I do not want to make the wrong decision". Not sure as her actions are confusing. What do you think?"


I didnt know she did NOT reply.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-05-2008
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 9:10am

I didnt know she did NOT reply.

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Registered: 06-14-2008
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 11:39am

Hi ghost.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 1:29pm
Welcome to the board bisi54 and thanks for participating.




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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-05-2008
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 1:29pm

Hey Bisi,


First of all, I like your name, hehe, its cute. It reminds me of my younger brother who used to call cats "Bisi"...instead of 'bsayni' ;)..


Anyway, I didn't know what kind of girl she was until recently but I do not know why I still have feelings for her. You are right though about her personality and probably her true colours came out at the end of all this.


I was supprised to know your from Sidon cuz i'm from there too :D.......


What do you do in the US? I'm working in Kuwait at the moment which you probably already know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 1:35pm

"Indeed your story is a strange one. You must have been going through a hard time with all that crap going on. So to understand your situation better, the guy who likes you/wants you at the moment, knew you from your history that was stolen from you? "


From what I can piece together people knew "of" me (the alleged person) because of the crime. Somehow my name and likeness were used to be part of something very sick and criminal.

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Registered: 06-14-2008
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 6:13pm

I work in the medical field.

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