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| Sun, 02-08-2004 - 12:09pm |
i posted this discussion a few days back, but i just want some more input and opinions. thank you all for replying. im a guy and my ex really confused me, so i figured that i would get answers from you lovely women on ivillage, so bare with me cause its confusing. my ex and i were dating for 5 months and we broke up 2 weeks ago. she wanted to see other people.her parents are going through a divorce and it has affected her alot. my ex told her mom that she loved me.her mother told her that she should see other people and date around because if she had done so, maybe she wouldnt have been in a divorce. my ex said that she loved me, and even said that she was falling in love with me. and in like a week, she came to me and said " i want to see other people." i was the most patient and understanding boyfriend to her. she asked me to be understanding of her, so i did. but she would always ask me 'why do you love me?' and 'why do you want to be with me?'. she even said that she felt like i was settling for her, and i told her that i loved her and that i wanted to be with her, but it seemed as if that wasn't good enough.she always said that she had doubts about our relationship because she didn't know how long it was going to last. i figured that was normal, because no one knows for sure about relationships lasting, so i didnt bother adressing that. then she said that she wasnt sure if she was ready for a relationship, and i didnt believe that because you are ready for one or you aren't.she would constantly change the way she felt about me. she has problems communicating her feelings, and she pushed me away alot. she said she wanted to see less of eachother because we spent alot of time together. i agreed, but 3 days later she said that she didnt want things to change, so everything went back to "normal". i really feel like everything she has told me (i.e. "i love you, "i miss you", " i think i am falling in love with you") was a complete lie. she even said that she was becoming dependent on me. what in hell does that have to do with anything?im so confused, but i do love her. what is you guy's take on this? will she change her mind or should i just forget her completely and move on? and will seeing other people make her realize how much she loves me? im soooo confused. the more responses the better. thank you for taking the time to read all of this (lol)
