Confused even more!

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Confused even more!
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Fri, 04-11-2008 - 9:35am

I've already wrote about my bf and this girl that's supposedly is just a friend. She is leaving this state for good tomorrow and asked my bf to going bowling w her, dad, and a married couple that she knows. Since shes found out about my bf and I she hates me and doesn't want me to go but wants to see him this evening. He did invite me at first but now since we talked about her he said he doesn't want me to go. Also, he came out and told me that before him and I got together that he stayed at her house a few times and slept in the same bed but didn't do anything. I'm really upset that he let that bitch win this battle about me going to bowling tonight. My bf did invite me but now he changed it. I don't get it. Why would he change his mind about me going and reveal about them staying the night together? I'm very confused and pisted what should I do?


Amanda


PS Guys opinion would be great too!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 12:36pm

Hi Amanda,


Sorry but him going bowling with her and her family without you would be totally unacceptable to me. He cares more about HER feelings than he does about YOURS and the relationship with you.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 12:50pm

Actually, he changed his mind about going and was starting to think about me and how immature she is acting towards me. So he said he isn't going and f*** her. He said its always been her way or the highway and its very tiring.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 2:15pm

If he is in a relationship with "you", then he needs to respect your wishes and feelings, and not go running of bowling with her when you are not included. And, if you did not want to go then he should not either, especially as this is not a pure friendship, but has many other overtones. You need to step back and take a good look at your relationship with this person. Is he trustworthy? Is he respectful to you or is he playing games with you, trying to make you jealous and insecure? If it's the later, then I certainly suggest that you ask yourself what you are doing in the relationship? Why do you want to be treated like this?


Best wishes,

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 4:35pm
Your real nemesis is your BF.