Confused feelings. Please help.
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Confused feelings. Please help.
| Fri, 02-13-2004 - 2:19pm |
I have only been marrried for about 7-8 months. I have been noticing a change in my relationship with my husband. I feel like I am at the bottom of his list. We bearly send any time together anymore and I feel like I never get to see him. It seems like everything else is more important then me and he would rather send his time do other things. I have talked to him many times about this. We started having this problem before we even got married. I thought it was just from all the stress of the wedding. Things don't seem to be getting any better. I love him alot. But lately I have been having some feeling about another person and I'm not sure it they are true feelings or if they are just because he seems so much better for me and he would do all the little things that matter. I love my husband and I'm not sure what I should do. The thought of losing him scared me to death. I try not to think of this other person, but when we are around him that's all I think about. I haven't cheated on my husband and I never would. No one knows about these feeling but me. I have known this other guy for about 2 years and every time I am around him the feelings get stronger. I'm not sure what road I should be going down. This whole thing is really frustrating to me. I could really use some advice as to what I should do and what these feeling mean. I don't want to end my marriage and I can't stop thinking of this other guy. Please help.

Reading material to consider:
How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love by Sue Ellen Page
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr
Maybe just having them around the house will start a good conversation.
My best to you.
Carrie