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Confused & frustrated
| Fri, 12-21-2007 - 3:26am |
I met my Beloved at 15, when we were both military brats stationed overseas with our families. He was so perfect and good to me, I felt like Royalty and repaid him the favor. We understood each other without having to say a word, let alone offer an explanation of our point of view. We were together 13 months before he moved, but before he did, me proposed to me on New Year's, with the fireworks echoing in the background. It was perfect. We vowed to stay in touch, and despite my protests,

Actually, what you are teaching your kids is that their Dad is nothing more than a Sperm Donor and Piggy Bank in your life while you go off and have an Emotional Affair with another man.
Maybe your husband should divorce you and fight for custody of the children so that you can run off and live your fantasy.
Welcome to the board moonstruk_1,
You need to let one of the relationships go. You will never be able to work on your marriage while you are hanging onto this relationship with your ex. You need to decide which relationship you want to give a wholeharded heart to and end the other one.
Perhaps some individual counseling would help you figure this out.
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Spice, you have no freaking clue what I have endured to make this marriage work, so don't presume to judge me !! Let me give you a little background about the "sperm donor/piggy bank" you refer to.....Long before the ex came back, DH would come home, mad about something and I would be at the receiving end of things. He landed in jail for taking it out on me and our oldest, who at the time was 2. He's gone through anger management, and has done well with it. If I didn't love him or believe he was more than what he'd become, I WOULD HAVE LEFT !! I'm EXTREMELY greatful for him, I think he's a good man, just not the one for me. I AM NOT in the least bit using him for ANYTHING. From the outside looking in, we have a wonderful relationship.
As far as him divorcing me and fighting for custody....Spoken like a true pig/man. I'm DONE playing the "blame games" because it's immature and doesn't get you anywhere. None are perfect, least of all me, I admit that openly.