Confused & heartbroken
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| Wed, 03-21-2007 - 6:51am |
I broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years at the beginning of this year. The reason was that he was my first boyfriend and the first person I slept with and although we were so good together and I loved him so much and saw a long and very happy future with him, I also had a niggling feeling in my heart that I couldn't commit 100% to the future until I had been single for a while. He would always tell me that this relationship was different from all the others that he had had and that it was very special but as I had no other experience I couldn't compare or understand.
After time as a singleton, and sleeping with another guy, I realised that all I wanted was my ex boyfriend. I found out that although the initial 'spark' with someone new is great, it eventually goes out and this new guy couldn't give me what I craved, the amazing time I had with my ex.
So when my ex told me he had started seeing someone new and that it didn't effect the way he felt about me, I was heart broken as I had already made up my mind that I wanted to be with him. We arranged to talk on the phone and instead I went to see him so that we could talk face to face. It now turns out that he's the confused one, and needs to do what I needed to do to see whether we have a future. He's staying with this girl but also says he wants to know that i'll be waiting, and I will for a while as I know that I want to be with him. I told him that when he knows what he wants, to be honest and tell me. But that could be months or years when it took me only 2 months for me to realise.
I know what I want but I'm totally devastated that he changed his mind and now needs to discover things, I don't know what to do.

Welcome to the board mandy1001,
I think waiting for him for a little while is okay. However, you shouldn't have to wait forever. I think you need to set a time limit. Say several months or whatever you are happy with. When that time comes he if hasn't come around, than call him and tell him you can't wait any longer and if he doesn't want you now than you are going to start dating other people again.
I am sorry you are going through this.
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