Confused in LOVE!!! please help
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| Mon, 05-19-2008 - 3:27pm |
I have big problem. I am in love with this guy and im in relationship with him since past 3years. He is nice and i love being with him.unfotunately his parents are not approving our marriage. however he says he loves me a lot and the he believes i'm his destiny but he does not wish to go against his parents wish. he wants me to wait till destiny takes its call. i was waiting till now however one of my very good friend have proposed to me. he is good and i like him too. But im not sure if im in love with him. he kissed me that day and i cudnt refuse. i think i have started liking him as well. I dont understand how can i love two people at the same time. i am not too sure what i am doing and what shud i do. i dont want to play with others life. please help
Many Thanks in advance
tej

Welcome to the board teju2008,
Reading material to consider:
Are You The One For Me? Barbara DeAngelis
Do Not Talk to, Touch, Marry or Otherwise Fiddle with Frogs, by Nailah Shami
Hi,
Thanks for your reply. But i still need your help. I am 26now. and Anu and i have been together for last 3 years. i really wanted to get married to him. but he does not wish to go againt his parents wish. But he loves me a lot and have strong feeling that we will be together forever. I could not make myself beleive this. I still waited for him. I dont believe in miracles. I dont think our destiny would change if we dont do something abt it. I did speak to him but he dosnt wish to force his parents he wants them to accept our relationship willingly. It is this reason which made me confuse as to wot shud i do shud i be with him and wait for destiny or shud i just move on.
I was still thinking abt all these and this fren of mine propose to me. I do like him but till now i only saw him as my very good friend. I dont know if im love with him now but i like it when he comes close to me and love to spend time with him. he loves me a lot and wish to marry me and he knows abt my relation with anu.
but im not sure wot shud i do. i dont know if i shud wait for anu or shud i go with pranav. or as u stated earlier shud i just move on with life. i dont wish to play with anu or pranav's heart but at the same time i dont want to lose precious love.........which i dont know where it lies
sorry to ask this again, but do you still have the same opinion?
Welcome to the board teju2008,
It doesn't seem like you truly love either one of these men.
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Hi Thanks for your advise.
I do love Anu. i cant think of leaving him. but it is very
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Hi,
i did what i didnt wanted to do.......i was thinking how to refuse to pranav.........i didnt wanted to break his heart.......but still i decided dat i must....so one
Very often destiny needs a push from the people who are involved in it. It can be a cop out to say, let's wait until destiny makes things alright. It's up to him to make a choice and decision. He can wait forever for destiny and nothing may happen. Or, destiny may very well bring someone else to you, as it seems is going on now.
Obviously you want to get married (as you well should, and have every right to). Love is not enough. Both people have to be able to face and overcome obstacles and work on building a relationship that is healthy and fair to both. If he cannot do this, or will not do this, then maybe it is time to explore this new relationship that has come your way.
We can love many people. The question is who really wants to be with us, who can be counted on and with whom can we buid a fine, healthy life.
Best wishes,
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