Confused by reaction to strippers
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Confused by reaction to strippers
| Tue, 06-15-2004 - 4:33pm |
My bf and I have been together 2 1/2 years and are very close and honest about everything. We tell each other everything and basically do everything together, including live,watch porn, look at "dirty" magazines, etc. I am not bothered by him looking at porn or masturbating. I told him it would bother me if he went to a strip club without me, but I would be okay with it if he told me about it and was honest. I came back home from vacation with my family and found matches from a strip club. He admitted to it but said he wouldn't have told me unless I'd asked. I was really, really hurt and felt betrayed by him, I still can't believe he went behind my back and deceived me. A few weeks later, his friend all went out of town for the night for a friends bachelor party. I told him it would really hurt my feelings if he went into the strip club again but that he could make his own decisions. I just still felt hurt from last time and the fact that he was hiding it from me made me feel uncomfortable. Well, he went into the club anyways and now I feel hurt and like he thinks my feelings are not important. I refuse to do anything "to get him back", I just want him to understand that he chose to hurt me twice now and I don't think that is something I should have to worry about. My trust in him is definately suffering. BTW, he is planning to propose to me soon! Guys/Girls advice and or comments, please!!!!

Well I don't think there is anything wrong with him going to a strip club for a bachelors party BUT there is definetely something wrong with him not taking into consideration your feelings. You need to sit with him and tell him how you feel if him going to a strip club without you is something that you will not live with then tell him. Give him an ultimatum. I'm sure once he realizes how much it means to you he will agree. Just be firm in your decision. Anyways there is no reason for him to have a problem with only going with you and if he does then he is there for the wrong reasons.Good luck keep us posted. Jessica
He sounds like a very horny man to me. If he masturbates and has sex with you, that's a lot of sex.
Honey, I don't think he is going to listen to you, his mind seems to be focused on sex all the time.
He may not be your kind of guy. If you love him and want to stay with him, you might have to take him as he is. good luck
Good luck!
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